Marriage Contract

Submitted by jencct on January 12, 2010 - 20:24

A friend knew I am married to a lawyer. He asked me once to ask my husband that if all contracts had some kind of termination clause, how come a marriage contract doesn't have one? I burst out laughing. Of course, that is understandable, if you knew him.....as he is now finally (and happily) annulled.

In the past years, I have seen a few friends split up with people who I thought would be their forever partners. Some people were going out longer than they were even married! It's especially sad for those with children.

The papers today had a report on a proposal for a 10-year expiry on marriage! I didn't know what to make of it after I read the short article. On the one hand, I recalled my friend who did ask about it.

On the other hand, I kept on thinking how, as when you go into all contracts, you'd like things to work. So you go through all the nitty gritty stuff, go line per line making sure that each agrees on everything. You negotiate in order for both parties to be happy when the contract is signed and enforced. Which is pretty much the same way when choosing someone to marry.

I've always been one to believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. I believe that we, as humans (and we THINK!), are able to make choices. And the choices we make should be our own. I know that this is a difficult thing to do (sometimes by sheer family or peer pressure, it is certainly not easy to make the *right choice for oneself*), but unless we stand for our right and make our choices, we might not be truly happy.

I actually asked my husband about a termination clause in a marriage contract. And he said that there is one anyway..."till death do you part"!

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Foolish

jaiaquino's picture
Submitted by jaiaquino on January 18, 2010 - 09:25.

I agree with rinna. and to think that these people were supposedly looking out for the women when this totally disregards women's rights and benefits. they might as well just legalize divorce where conjugal assets and properties can be properly divided and deserving parties be given alimony and child support.

weird

ella's picture
Submitted by ella on January 16, 2010 - 01:04.

Why ten years? Why not 7, when supposedly the "itch" spreads?

If they're going to propose an alternative, better a divorce, something substantial. The ten year expiration smells "pr stunt" to me.

Re: Marriage Contract

rinna's picture
Submitted by rinna on January 13, 2010 - 06:45.

e di mag-boyfriend/girlfriend na lang. LOL
I think the proponents of this fail to look at marriage as a family institution. They merely see it as a relationship between 2 parties. Thing is, a lot of marriages result in having children. What of the children then? Parang na-trivialize naman ang mga anak.
I am, however, in favor of divorce laws. I feel kasi sa atin, dehado ang babae lalo na kapag SAHM. Some men just keep on abusing and cheating on their wives because the wife has no other recourse but to stay with the man who supports her and her children.

10 Expiry???

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Submitted by ejlching on January 12, 2010 - 22:51.

Crazy!!! I for one, believe it's for keeps, but if it really does not work out, THEN you do something about it - but I think couples should get married believing it's for forever and not something "hmmm, let's do it and see..."

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