Submitted by Jillsabs on December 29, 2012 - 12:51
I first heard about this piece of news on the radio and found my heart pounding at the thought of someone snatching Bean away from us:
My US-based relatives always say how lucky we here in the Philippines are because we have helpers who keep house and raise our children for us. In a way that is true, but I've always wondered about the wisdom of entrusting your children and home to virtual strangers. And now this news comes out about children being kidnapped right from their own homes :(
I used to have an officemate whose constant source of stress was finding yayas for her 4 children (all under the age of 5 back then, with two under 2 years old!). Honestly though, I thought that she brought most of the stress on herself because she expected too much from her yayas. Even if the yaya was only paid to look after the child, she still expected her to do housework etc. just because the yaya was already there and living under her roof. She must have hired and fired about a dozen yayas in the year and a half I worked with her. I would constantly remind her that if she could find someone she could trust and would treat her children with compassion, then it doesn't matter if the sala wasn't cleaned everyday. I still believe that to this day.
I never thought that I would have a problem looking for a yaya when my time came, because we had this long time helper who volunteered herself to look after my future child long before I even met Bean's baby-daddy. And then Neneng fell in love and left with her lover a few months before I got pregnant. Ah love!
Neneng with my niece Maddie
Neneng was the only one I could trust to not run off with my baby (I know, I'm paranoid) or not emotionally or physically abuse the child (as our long-time yaya did to us. May she burn in hell!), and I'm honestly not comfortable leaving Bean with any other person. That's why I'm all the more determined to stay at home with Bean for at least 6 months when I give birth. And so the scrimping and saving continues.